Fix nix-cache remote-builder trust: stale host key + wrong sshKey path

variables.nix's nixCacheHostKey no longer matched nix-cache's actual SSH
host key (confirmed via ssh-keyscan against the live container), so every
declaratively-configured client's programs.ssh.knownHosts trusted the
wrong key -- distributed builds would fail host-key verification. Also,
modules/nix-cache/remote-builder-client.nix hardcoded sshKey to
/root/.ssh/nixremote, but the `server` host only has its own default
/root/.ssh/id_ed25519 installed (confirmed live via qm guest-agent) --
that file was never even present, so the build machine config pointed at
nothing. Standardize on each client's own default identity, matching the
per-host-key pattern vars.remoteBuilderAuthorizedKeys already uses instead
of a shared/differently-named keypair, and add
scripts/secrets/sync-nix-cache-host-key.sh (wired into
codex-maintenance.sh's --check) so the host-key drift doesn't silently
recur next time nix-cache is rebuilt or recreated.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Sonnet 5 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_01V7yVH71vGrDVzovh9UaMu8

variables.nix

@@ -26,7 +26,7 @@
   # fresh client that has never manually ssh'd to nix-cache before. Update
   # this if nix-cache's host key is ever rotated or the host is rebuilt
   # from scratch.
-  nixCacheHostKey = "ssh-ed25519 AAAAC3NzaC1lZDI1NTE5AAAAIHrMKZlIGUd3pH9G3AqbsruqUGjxIXMAZw52u9MwiBCn lxc-nix-cache";
+  nixCacheHostKey = "ssh-ed25519 AAAAC3NzaC1lZDI1NTE5AAAAIPeWgMsdaiz4axT/deFc1+0B5bN+GX/NOeW9bbQ0c/IT lxc-nix-cache";
 
   # Public keys authorized to SSH in as remoteBuilderUser on the nix-cache
   # host (modules/nix-cache/server.nix) — one per client host that's allowed