refactor(tailscale): rename exit-node to subnet-router; drop --advertise-exit-node

The host was always intended as a LAN subnet router (--advertise-routes),
not a full exit node (--advertise-exit-node). Rename every trace of
"exit-node" to "subnet-router" and remove the --advertise-exit-node flag
from extraSetFlags; the operator supplies --advertise-routes at first
tailscale up and Tailscale persists it in state across reboots.

Routing sysctls (useRoutingFeatures = "server"), openFirewall, and
trustedInterfaces = ["tailscale0"] are still required for subnet routing
to work, so the module is kept — just correctly named.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Sonnet 4.6 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_01TF2dsuKZAiyZWQ1D7CuHJm

hosts/tailscale-exit-node/host.nix

@@ -1,12 +0,0 @@
-_:
-
-{
-  networking.hostName = "exit-node";
-
-  # No networking.hostId: only ZFS-touching hosts (server, docker) need one
-  # for pool-import safety, and this host does neither.
-
-  # A genuinely new host (not a pre-refactor carry-over), so it tracks the
-  # flake's current nixpkgs release rather than being pinned to an older one.
-  system.stateVersion = "26.05";
-}

hosts/tailscale-subnet-router/host.nix

@@ -0,0 +1,10 @@
+_:
+
+{
+  networking.hostName = "tailscale-router";
+
+  # No networking.hostId: only ZFS-touching hosts (server, docker) need one
+  # for pool-import safety, and this host does neither.
+
+  system.stateVersion = "26.05";
+}