Add tailscale-exit-node build type across all three platforms

New build type dedicated to Tailscale exit-node capability, wired up for
linode/proxmox/lxc like every other build type (the lxc variant is the one
actually intended for deployment). Kept separate from the "server" host
rather than bundling exit-node capability onto it.

Trimmed modules/tailscale/exit-node.nix down to pure exit-node behavior:
dropped the old --advertise-routes=${vars.lanCidr} bundling (meaningless
for a Linode-hosted VPS with no path to the LAN), and switched
extraUpFlags -> extraSetFlags. Confirmed against nixpkgs' tailscale.nix
that extraUpFlags is only applied by tailscaled-autoconnect, which itself
only runs when services.tailscale.authKeyFile is set -- nothing in this
repo sets one, so the old flags would never have actually been applied.
extraSetFlags runs unconditionally via tailscaled-set on every boot, so
--advertise-exit-node self-reapplies once the operator has done the
one-time manual `tailscale up` auth.

Verified: all three new targets eval cleanly, nixpkgs-fmt/statix clean,
and a dry-run build of lxc-tailscale-exit-node's tarball resolves its full
closure including tailscaled-set.service.

Co-Authored-By: Claude Sonnet 5 <noreply@anthropic.com>
Claude-Session: https://claude.ai/code/session_01La55Nsss8jZ7ZuzUV9mfot

modules/tailscale/exit-node.nix

@@ -1,12 +1,19 @@
-{ vars, ... }:
+_:
 
 {
   services.tailscale = {
     enable = true;
 
-    extraUpFlags = [
+    # extraSetFlags (tailscale set, via the always-on tailscaled-set
+    # service), not extraUpFlags -- extraUpFlags is only ever applied by
+    # tailscaled-autoconnect, which itself only runs when
+    # services.tailscale.authKeyFile is set (nothing in this repo sets one,
+    # so tailscale up is a manual, one-time operator step on every host that
+    # uses this service). extraSetFlags has no such gate, so
+    # --advertise-exit-node self-reapplies on every boot once the operator
+    # has authenticated the node once.
+    extraSetFlags = [
       "--advertise-exit-node"
-      "--advertise-routes=${vars.lanCidr}"
     ];
   };
 }